[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lIiZION79-w[/youtube]I got an email from a friend of mine the other day and I can’t seem to let it go. She is a beautiful woman, inside and out, but has been beaten down so many times her spirit is deflated. It’s been said that writers espouse wisdom on the very topic they need most and my life has continually validated that statement. I lived so many years where she is right now and identify with her struggle, so I hope that she can find some comfort in what I’m about to say. Perspective is everything.

I always hated when someone would say to me,

Just pick yourself up by your bootstraps and get on with your life. How could they understand what I was going through? It’s not an easy task to change where you are, especially when your energy is drained from the constant battle. The insecurities took years to grow and take root.

So can we really ever change things when the events in our lives keep pushing us down? The answer is an unequivocal YES! We can reprogram the default in our minds and derail old beliefs. We can surround ourselves with positive influences and constantly remind ourselves of our possibilities instead of our disabilities. Years of pain take time to unravel, but patience, persistence and a belief that our dreams can come true will allow them to unfold. Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If we believe we deserve the best, we will very likely get it.