[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kk_152PgySA[/youtube]The economy has given us all a ride lately … but have you ever wondered why some people fall apart when they hit a bump in the road and others use their misfortune to motivate positive change in their lives? Attitude has a lot to do with the way we handle adversity, but how do you get the motivation for the positive attitude? A few years ago a health study determined why people can’t cope in life, and one of the major reasons was low self-esteem.
You see, self-confidence is a strong ally, but self-doubt can be an equally strong adversary.
I’m no therapist, but it’s easy to see why so many people develop a poor self image. I was at the store yesterday evening and was taken back by a mother who was screaming at her daughter, yanking her around and shaking her child, in a misguided attempt to reprimand her. I wish people would realize the damage they inflict on a child’s self-image and frame of reference … children learn what they live and if their parents deal with stress by getting angry, the children will learn to do the same thing.
Abuse runs rampant in our society. Too many children are physically and emotionally abused at home by their parents, but even more are abused in schools and playgrounds by their peers and sometimes even their teachers. If anyone is unique or different in some way, they become a target for ridicule and it can have a traumatic and lasting effect on their self-image. Perspective, not reality, is the key to self-worth. When someone perceives themselves as stupid, ugly or unloveable, inadequate or rejected, that’s what they become, and their self-image will control their decisions and the paths they choose for their future.
I hope this video inspires you as it does me.
You can make a difference in so many lives, including your own, by remembering a few simple things. Teach your children to be compassionate and tolerant and let them know everyday how much you cherish them. Always take a deep breath and think before you lash out at them … or anyone. Remember, an unexpected smile or a soft touch can brighten someone’s day. An unsolicited, sincere complement or showing honest interest in someone can encourage them, and taking the time and effort to listen, can dry a tear and restore self-worth. When you boost someone’s self-image, you can make a profound difference in their lives and there is a bonus too … in the process, you’ll de-emphasize your own problems and end up feeling better about yourself!
Source: Youtube–Jodie Sachse