I’ll begin and end this ill-advised, unsolicited critique by saying that my rant applies to both sexes.
I don’t know anyone who views on-line dating as their life mission statement. For most of us, the purpose of getting on a dating site is to eventually get off the dating site. But I’ve read profiles where people disclaim, if not apologize for, their presence on these on-line dating sites. Examples: “I can’t believe I’m doing this.” or “I don’t want to be on the site”
I realize this way of meeting people is foreign territory for many. It was for me. Still, I believe the thought is better left unsaid. You might not be intending to comment on your love life, or how far down the food chain you think you’ve come by resorting to an on-line dating service, God forbid. But what does it say about the rest of us who are on them?
I say welcome to 2009, where some of my most meaningful conversations are with my car’s navigational system. As I see it, meeting people on-line is just as plausible and no more a crapshoot than any other alternative we already have. And it might just generate better results for you than hanging out in the organic produce section at Trader Joe’s, or fielding prospects from your mother ‘” or your children. It’s bad enough they tell you what clothes to wear.
First, don’t lie about your age ‘” or anything else. No one wants to date a liar ‘” unless, of course, that person is a liar, or doesn’t care what you write as long as you look good. Of course, if you want superficial, you’ll find it. Just don’t complain later on.
Still, if the truth isn’t sufficient, if you still feel compelled to lie about your age, but then feel the need to confess two lines later that you’re really 5 years older ‘” saying, for “search reasons” you lied ‘” well then, what’s the point? At best you’ve confused everyone. At worst, you’ve given us a headache. We already want to dump you and we haven’t even spoken to you yet. Besides, it’s disempowering. You’re altering the truth about yourself so Mr. or Ms. Right, a stranger for the moment, doesn’t pass you up on his/her search.
Richard is just getting started — there’s more to follow, so check out my blog on Monday …
Have a great weekend!
Casi
ewwww…that’s a tough one! I’m getting older but not looking or acting it. However, I did decide I would be honest about my age online. It does narrow who is searching for you, but doesn’t mean you can’t initiate the conversation! Once they see me and read about me it’s all good. I agree, people have the right to choose what age group they want to fish in..lol