[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyUWkQj0Q_U[/youtube]Singles Scene: Okay, so the questions are mounting and Waldo isn’t quite so elusive. So now what? How do we determine if we’re being paranoid and untrusting or merely realistic? Well, I can’t answer that. I’m not a fortune teller. It’s just a gut feeling. (If I’ve lost you, then you need to go back and read yesterday’s blog post.)
If we are honest with ourselves, we’ve all been on both sides. We’ve ignored a call when we really didn’t feel the chemistry. We’ve gone out with someone knowing they were nice, hot or just there — but we knew they weren’t really “the one.” Maybe we didn’t include them or introduce them to friends or family. (BTW … There’s nothing wrong with spending time with our friends so don’t be paranoid and clingy if they do … occasionally — just don’t ignore that red flag if it waves in your face!) And lets face it people, if someone is still on a dating site or continually has other ‘plans’ on weekends, especially when they have talked exclusivity, we are probably a back-up, or a maybe, but NOT their priority! We owe it to ourselves to move on!
“Never allow someone to be your Priority, while allowing yourself to be their Option!”
When we waste time with the wrong person hoping, wondering, wallowing or worrying, we could miss out on someone really amazing … the “right one” just might be out there on the sidelines. When you find yourself questioning your relationship, chances are there is a reason, but don’t agonize over the whys — they really don’t matter. Instead, focus on Waldo. It doesn’t make sense to try and hold on to someone who isn’t really there in the first place. It may just be time to WALK AWAY, and what ever you do, don’t look back!! Second chances rarely work. If it wasn’t there in the first place … need I say more?
We all deserve to be — and to have “the one” — the right one who is perfect for us. When that happens, we won’t have those nagging questions or fears. We’ll just feel it! Like Danny (John Travolta) said in Grease … It’s electrifying!
Have a great weekend!!