[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1CUNV7n1s0[/youtube] Albert Einstein said, “The definition of Insanity is: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Well, I’m no ‘Albert Einstein,’ or ‘Dear Abby’ for that matter, but I have been around the block a few times and when you keep falling in the same pot hole, you eventually learn to avoid it!
I get a lot of emails from singles looking for answers. Why didn’t he call me back? Why doesn’t she introduce me to her friends? He says we are boyfriend/girlfriend, so why is he still on internet dating sites? If we are exclusive, why will she only commit to going out Friday OR Saturday, but not both?
The questions are endless — but do you see a pattern starting to develop here? It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out the answers. They can be condensed into a single word, PRIORITY. The bottom line is, we all make priorities in our lives. The important things move up to the top and the not so important settle down to the bottom. If you’re not a priority in his/her life, the red flags will start to wave feverishly! We can see them … but unless we focus on them, they somehow disappear into the picture — like ‘Where’s Waldo!’
Why do the flashing, red, warning signals fade into the scenery? The reason is simple, its never easy to accept rejection, especially when you care about someone. Deanna sent me this in her email,
“I’m so mad, I want to @#$%^& !!! I should tell him he never responded to my email, text or FB post and that apparently he’s not the “good guy” I previously thought he was. I’m just that mad. I mean, how dare he not respond to cute little me!”
Deanna was venting and the last sentence was intended to have a sarcastic tone, but her underlying message hit the nail on the proverbial head! We shrug our shoulders and say we don’t care. We call them ‘jerks’ and commiserate with friends, but the truth is, rejection hurts!
In the above video, Dondria sings of falling in love. Its all about what we ‘believe’ and love is amazing — unless you fall in love ALONE! Feelings have to reciprocated! We shouldn’t beat ourselves up though. There’s a little insecurity lurking in even the strongest people! And hey — we can’t be perfect for everyone!! So when the questions rear their ugly little heads, remember: Actions speak louder than words!!
To be continued in my blog tomorrow …