Silencing our Worst Critic
“That’s terrible! You call yourself a writer?”
I continued pounding the keys on my laptop.
“This is going to be the worst book ever. No one’s going to read it.”
Had you viewed this conversation, you would have seen me quietly sitting in front of the computer engrossed in my writing. It’s not easy silencing our worst critic. The verbal tussle took place inside my head, between my inner negative critic and me. This disparaging, alter ego excels in planting fears and anxieties, magnifying insecurities and creating low self-esteem…when I let it. It appears whenever I’m feeling vulnerable.
In the early days, this inner critic spoke freely. My confidence was undermined. I routinely called myself an idiot, wondering if I was ever good enough. When I managed to land a dream job in a movie studio like my heroine, Corrie Locke, I was paranoid I’d lose it.
“Everyone wants your job,” the voice would say. “You’re going to mess up ‘cause you’re not good enough.”
One day, I decided to talk back.
“I’m not listening to you anymore. If you’ve got something positive to share, we’ll talk. Otherwise, farewell.”
The self-criticisms didn’t completely go away, but slowly and vigilantly, I silenced the intrusive inner commentary. I once read that it helps to picture your mind as a bus. I sat in the driver’s seat. All the little denunciations were my passengers, trying to take over the driver’s seat. If I let them, my bus would crash. My aim was to reduce the whining passengers until all the nasties were thrown out. If I heard a negative thought, I’d view it as an undesirable rider and hurl the intruder out by the seat of his or her pants. It worked.
We owe it to ourselves to speak kindly in our minds. About ourselves and others. Our happiness and personal progress depends largely on our own efforts. After all, it’s the world inside of us that determines the direction our lives can take.
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