5 Secrets To Insure A Great Relationship
My husband and I have been married for nearly thirty-eight years. Along the way we’ve learned a few things about love and marriage. So here’s my top five pieces of advice:Number 5: Do things together. Learn to dance, share a hobby, go bowling. Whatever the two of you both enjoy and are passionate about. Marriage is about being a couple and sharing things together. I took up golf so I could join my husband out on the links, doing something he really enjoys. Am I crazy about golf? Not really, but I’m crazy about my husband and I like doing stuff with him. We also enjoy going to concerts, movies and live theatre together.
Number 4: Give each other some space. Okay, I’m not contradicting everything I just said. As much as I enjoy spending time and doing things with my husband, we’re not joined at the hip. We each need the time and space to pursue our own interests. It’s the same reason we have two televisions in our house. To each, his/her own.
Number 3: Have fun! Sometimes life can get very mundane. Between work and kids and paying bills, things can get very stressful. And dull. Make the time to have some fun. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money; take a walk on your favorite beach, or maybe just a walk around your neighborhood. Even if you can only afford to dance around your kitchen, go for it!
Number 2: Support each other’s goals. My husband is very supportive of my writing. In fact, without his support, both emotional and financial, I couldn’t write a single word. I try to support the things that are important to him, and I hope I succeed.
And my number one piece of advice? Drum roll please…
Communicate with each other. Tell each other what you’re feeling, what you want, what you need; don’t make your partner guess. But sometimes it’s more about what you don’t say then what you do. When tempers flare, it’s so easy to say something hurtful or unkind you really don’t mean and wish you could take back. Always tell each other your feelings, but always speak with love, even if you’re angry. And always listen more than you talk.
So that’s my advice. Do I always follow my own good advice? Maybe not. I sometimes fall down on my number one piece of advice, the communication part. But for the most part, my husband and I let forgiveness and acceptance and love be our guide. It’s kept us going for thirty-eight years.
And they said it wouldn’t last!
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