[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Faf1ch7Q9XE[/youtube]Nicole was blind sighted by the man she loved. It happens to all of us at some point in our lives – usually more than once. But you can’t live your life in fear, afraid of moving on and putting your life on hold – wallowing in past pain. Throughout my life, I truly became a jerk-magnet. Not because the men in my life were jerks, but because I entered the wrong relationships – at the wrong time – at least wrong for me. The men I encountered were merely fighting demons of their own and the dynamics between us proved lethal.
We all handle grief and life in different ways. We struggle to get through it based on our frame of reference. You can’t escape your past. It’s part of you – but you can let go of pain and fear and obliterate the hold it has on you. It’s the only way to discover who you are and what you want in life. You have to be honest with yourself and sometimes that’s pretty scary, but when you lie to yourself you are primed to make poor decisions. If you shatter the broken reflection in the mirror of your past you can heal – only then can you find true happiness.
When grief steals the passion from your soul, you feel like you won’t survive, but somehow you do – The pain subsides and dissipates and one day you realize it doesn’t hurt quite so bad. Over time you learn to let go. The thing you have to remember is as long as you have a tomorrow, you have another chance – life can turn around in the blink of an eye. That’s what keeps us going – gives us hope. We are all in this together fighting the same battles, just in different ways, the only way we know how. But I discovered that love keeps us going – drives our passion and brings joy to our lives – we survive with love.
So don’t empower someone else’s decision to put your life on hold. Open your heart. You don’t have to look very far to find someone far worse off than you are. Show compassion and reach out to others. It boosts your positive endorphins, and gives you a sense of joy, confidence and peace, and its the fastest way to heal your own heart. Love is the greatest gift life has to offer – and its free. True, it makes you vulnerable to pain, but the rewards are well worth the risk.
I hope you enjoy the video of Gloria Gaynor. Her inspiration just makes you feel better!
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