The last guy I dated was a lethal lover. In hind sight, I can see so many red flags, but I explained them all away. I made up more excuses for him than he did. The truth is, I loved loving him and I wanted the feelings to last. He seemed to be everything I had always wanted, but the reality was, he had romance down to a science. He knew the right things to say and do to capture my heart. I saw the signs and I convinced myself Read more “Lethal Lovers * Part 1”
I love this picture! He is standing on top of the world and taking in everything. The picture reminds me of the first time I realized I really wasn’t who I had believed I was throughout my entire life. I felt a kind of freedom I had never experienced before.
I struggled most of my life because I had twisted what happened in my past into my self-image. I think a lot of people do that. They program themselves like you program a computer. It took me a long time to discover that what happens to me does not define who I am at my core. When it finally hit me, it was like a bolt of lightning, but Read more “Yes, It Was Awful—Now Please Shut Up * Part 3”
I was at a party saturday night and was approached by a very attractive man. To filter out the blatant players I’ve found it is best to use honesty, so after fifteen minutes of idle chit-chat, I asked him his views on monogamy. He began a litany of excuses as to why a man is genetically “hard-wired” through evolution to procreate while women, as child-rearing homemakers are monogamous. I know it’s hard to swallow girls, but let’s face it, Read more “Cheating-Stop the Excuses!!!”
I have a friend who is such a great guy, but he lives in the pain of his past. I wrote a full chapter of my book about him. He truly believes he can’t have a normal relationship because of the anger he harbors inside, and … He’s right! Like Henry Ford said,“Whether you believe you can, or whether you believe you can’t, you’re absolutely right.” Henry, though not a therapist, was a brilliant man and right on the money! I found out first hand, what you believe determines how you live your life.
For years, I couldn’t understand why my “magnetic personality” was drawn to jerks or why Read more “Yes, It Was Awful—Now Please Shut Up * Part 2”
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Her warning still echoed in Casi’s mind. He’s the kind of man that pulls wings off of butterflies. The faceless man had haunted her for as long as she could remember. She shuddered and clenched her eyes as tightly as she could, but the admonition refused to be silenced. Read more “Wingless Butterfly”
It’s miraculous how one event or a seemingly insignificant decision can change the course of many lives. The tiniest shift could alter futures forever. The decisions my mother made charted the course of my life and my choices carved my destiny, but my secret past had distorted my view and the journey of my life had me repeatedly stumbling. I am not a therapist, nor do I claim to be, but over the years I have come to realize the vast majority of wounds that pierce the human soul … are the result of perception.
I ran across this 4-part post the other day and I have to share it with you. Martha Beck is a life coach, columnist, and author and her article “Yes, It Was Awful—Now Please Shut Up” is Read more “Yes, It Was Awful—Now Please Shut Up * Part 1”
Okay, so I wasn’t actually attacked, but I did get a black eye, so I might as well have a little fun with it. Don’t worry, I wasn’t abused, just in the wrong place at the right time! I think a lot of people can identify with that. They may or may not get a black eye, but they can be hurt. I always thought Goldie, Read more “Author Attacked”